Seems like we start and end life in much the same state.  Concerned about independence, or concerned about how we fit in.  Every thime I go to a cemetery I ponder the folks who are looking at the grass from the other side.  It is amazing how many of them I have outlived.  The National cemetery on Pt. Loma has about 50,0000 people  interred.  It is an amazingly beautiful location and it is beautifully kept up.